Undoubtedly, Emotional Intelligence has a significant relation to our performance and ultimately better quality of life. It is not merely a skill or competency; it is simply a way to live a life full of potential. It would be unfair if I say that we are master in it, but No, We all struggle with it, and it always remains a work in progress and demands from us Consistent attention, and efforts to keep working on it.
Considering its pivotal role in our life, I want to add my valuable contribution in sharing these awesome insights to develop.
1. 25 / 5 Rule
According to ancient legend, billionaire Warren Buffett’s personal pilot was once discussing career priorities with his boss when Buffett taught him a simple lesson.
According to the legend, Buffet told his pilot to first make a list of his top 25 career goals, and then to circle the top five goals. To remain focused on accomplishing goals one through five, the pilot would need to keep away from the other goals.
The idea behind the 25/5 rule is that we often get distracted by things that are interesting but that prevent us from making progress on the more important things.
2. The rule of writing in reverse
Writing in reverse is simple: You have to reverse your role as the writer (of an email, a report, a landing page, etc.) with the role of the recipient (your audience). This is helpful because it keeps you from:
writing from an overly emotional perspective,
writing too much, or writing things that won’t help your cause, and that the recipient doesn’t care about.
Writing in reverse is also emotionally intelligent–because it helps you develop your empathy muscle.
3. The Golden Question
The golden question is actually five questions in one. When you need to make a decision, but you feel your emotions taking over, ask yourself:
How will I feel about this in:
This question is extremely helpful because by forcing yourself to “see the future,” you hack your brain and change the way it processes emotions.
4. 5-Minute Rule
Make a deal with yourself to work on a task for just five minutes. If you want to quit after that, no problem.
This works because the brain is “tricked” into seeing your large task as a small one. Of course, you usually end up working for much longer than five minutes.
5. Rule Of Writing
If you want to clarify your thinking, remember something important, or communicate something clearly, write it down.
6. 3 Question Rule
Does this need to be said?
Does this need to be said by me?
Does this need to be said by me, now?
This brilliant tool may seem simple, and it is. But I use it every single day, and it’s saved me countless times.
7. Rule of Re-Appraisal
Whenever you feel unproductive, stuck in a rut, or simply afraid of what’s ahead, you must remember the rule of reappraisal:
Don’t focus on the path ahead. Look back at how far you’ve come.
This simple shift in perspective can change frustration into contentment, and anxiety into appreciation.
8. Rule of First Things First
If you have too much to do, and not enough time to do it.
When facing this situation, You need to follow the rule of first things first. Narrow your task, and list down to only two or three items, max. Then, focus only on the first one, and start chipping away.
Which of the rules are you going to start practising?